.: WARNING!!...Woman in need of a MAJOR attitude change!!

Sunday, March 29, 2009

WARNING!!...Woman in need of a MAJOR attitude change!!

Wow! I am seriously having some bad attitude issues this past week! I am completely and utterly ornery and mean 24/7!! Growing up, my Dad would always say, "Julie, do you have a chip on your shoulder?" Of course, I would always answer, "NO!" Well this time, I am guilty of having a MAJOR CHIP ON MY SHOULDER!!

My emotions have been off the charts CRAZY this past week! Crying cause I miss my friends in my neighborhood, angry with EVERYONE about not being in my home yet, and beyond sad because I did not have my puppy Hank with me. Well, we have Hank back now....THANK YOU JENNINE!!! YOU ARE A LIFESAVER!! I LOVE YOU!!!But I am miserable!!! And I figured out why!

Not because of my situation...(living with my in-laws, living out of boxes, commuting 3 and 4 times a day to haul kids back and forth to school, sharing a kitchen, and so much more) But because I AM CHOOSING TO BE MISERABLE!!!!! Honestly, it is exhausting! I need to just UP MY ATTITUDE and be grateful for all that I do have! ..A home to stay in while we are waiting on our house, a very welcoming Grandma and Grandpa who are sharing their home with us, a great opportunity for a new chapter in our life, and last but not least, a healthy, happy family!

The last few days, I have had some major humbling conversations with family and friends who are struggling with loved ones with serious health issues, loss of loved ones, loss of work, and much more! Wow! I feel horrible that I have wasted a whole week of my life being completely miserable and ornery with EVERYONE! It's time for me to make a serious attitude adjustment and lose the "Chip on my shoulder":)

I found these few quotes that were just what I needed for an extra boost! A few are by Dr. Seuss...One of my heroes! He always makes me smile! :)
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"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." -Abraham Lincoln

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"Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.”
-...Dr. Seuss
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“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”
-...Dr. Seuss
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"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. "
-Dr. Seuss
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"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." -Helen Keller

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So starting right now, I am going to lose the "chip on my shoulder" and be HAPPY!!! Thanks to all of you who are such examples of Strength!!! You are truly amazing! I am who I am today because of you! So make this week a GREAT ONE!!!!

10 comments:

Shanna said...: Julie i love how real you are. i think we all go through this and often times nobody admits they need to have a change in their attitudes. I totally feel ya though, sometimes life gives ya lemons and ya wanna throw them against the wall...you're not alone friends. Good luck with the rest of the move though! we'll pray it goes smoothly for ya.; March 30, 2009 at 9:39 AM
Anonymous said...: you're cute:) It's ok to have some bad days...at least u are aware that u need to change your attitude! Things will get better. You're dealing with a lot and pregnancy hormones don't make it any easier!

Sorry, I think I've only signed into facebook once since I had the baby. I really liked Dr. Rigby he was super nice, BUT my epideral wore off twice on the right side!! I assume it wasn't his fault? prob just my body? But it wore off the second time when I was SUPER close so it was painful!!! I was shaking so freaken hard!; March 30, 2009 at 10:37 AM
Sticks and Stones said...: haha- I LOVE your blog. You are so cute - and you live so close... why haven't I seen you??? We need a girl's lunch. When can you come?
I recently found my most favorite Dr. Seuss book EVER at the library with my kids..Maybe you have read it....
"Did I Ever Tell You How Lucky You Are?"
http://www.librarything.com/work/209618
I want to read it everyday! You are one of the most positive people I know, We all have our days and it's ok. You have a lot of BIG changes going on right now so it is only expected that you would have some "emotional" days. I know you - and you will back on your happy horse in no time!; March 30, 2009 at 1:25 PM
Royce's said...: Good for you Jules! You forgot one major quote from one of my all time FAVORITES!! A wise, old, jamaican with nasty dreads once said... "Dont worry, be happy!" I always sing that song in times like these. By the way, I love that your naming your baby Rori Ana! And give Hanky a kiss from me!; March 31, 2009 at 1:00 PM
Royce's said...: By the way.. Check out the new post on my blog!! Its exciting!!; March 31, 2009 at 1:00 PM
Brandon and Carly said...: What a nice post. I do have to tell you - - I thought the pic at the first was Alex!!! I had to do a double take!!

Anyway - - hang in there! We all have good days, and bad days. And it is okay. Good for you for trying to have a change of attitude! (Although you always seem so happy and positive to me!) Hang in there!; March 31, 2009 at 2:26 PM
Heidelweiss said...: I love this post! What a great outlook. Those are some great quotes too!; April 1, 2009 at 9:16 AM
Buffy Clark said...: When you are pregnant you have every right to have a nasty attitude, or be as raunchy as you want to be. I was totally like that the whole time I was pregnant. I didn't mean to be, but I just was! When you are creating human life, you get to act any way you want! So go ahead and stay the way you want, you will come around sooner or later!; April 1, 2009 at 11:38 AM
Aimee said...: Jules, you are amazing. Give yourself a break. You are allowed to be onrey and mean. You are pregnant and tired and living in someone elses house! Your situation sucks right now and sometimes you just need to rent your frustrations to get it out and feel better. i almost cried reading your post because I have been there. I love you and if you want to drop Alex off to play, please do!!!; April 1, 2009 at 1:08 PM
Carrie Wagstaff said...: You're pregnant and your whole life has kinda been thrown upside down so I think you have a right to be a little ornery! But good for you for recognizing it and wanting to change it. If anyone can do it, it's you! Hang in there!; April 1, 2009 at 4:37 PM

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Kids say the darndest things.....

9.1.10 Today Alex is home with the Stomach flu. It is so sad. I hate when my kids are sick. He has been in the bathroom every 15 minutes and just runs around the house holding his stomach crying! He said to me this am, "I'm never gonna get better! Can we PLEASE go to the dr?" When I explained that the dr can't do much for the flu he said, "Can you call and see if they like have a different kind of stomach I can use or something just til mine isn't sick anymore?"

4.29.10 So I was out late..late... tonight after a fun Jewelry party. I got to stay and chat with some good friends. About 1:00am, Alex climbed into bed with Brady and said, "I just didn't want you to be lonely since mom's not home yet!"

3.22.10 Brinley came up to me yesterday and said, "Mom, what does 'maturation' mean?" (McKaylee has her Maturation program tomorrow) So I said, "Its where you learn about how your body matures, and what changes your body will be having in the next few years."

She looked at me, giggled and said, "Oh yah, So they are pretty much just gonna talk about getting boobs?"

3.23.10 Yesterday, Alex came rushing in the kitchen and said, "Mom!! Can we go to the store today? There is something that we need on the Breakfast Isle!" So I said, "Ok, what is it?" He said, "Hang on!" and ran back into my bedroom to rewind the commercial he was just watching. Then came back out and said, "Frosted Flakes! Cause they make you play soccer better so I need them!"

2.26.10 Our kids are constantly DISGUSTED by any affection Brady and I show toward each other. They are constantly saying, "Get a Room!!" Not sure where they learned that. A few weeks ago, Brady and I were having a discussion at the dinner table and we decided we couldn't go into the whole discussion in front of the kids, so Brady said, "We'll talk about it later in our bedroom". And Brinley starts giggling and says, "Oh, I know why you are gonna "talk" in your bedroom.." ( she actually did the air quotes too! Then she said, "That's code for lets kiss"....sheesh. Where does she come up with these things?

2.26.10 Bubba had an eye infection a few weeks back and I told him that we needed to go to the doctor and that all he would do is shine a light in his eyes to check them. He looked at me and started bawling and said, "I don't want him to put a light in my eyes cause that will make me have different hair".. ...HUH? I had no clue what was going on in that little head of his so I asked what he was talking about and he said. "If you shine a light in someone's eyes it makes them blonde"..(not sure that he even knows that he is blonde, but to him this meant he would have different hair...HILARIOUS! ) He has always heard us say, "Don't shine the flashlight in someone's eyes cause it can make them go BLIND". So funny!

2.08.10 Today me and the kids were watching Michael Jackson's "This Is It" and I was explaining to the kids how several parts of the movie were filmed just a few days before he died. During one of the songs, "Jam", Alex turned to me and said, "So did he do this one while he was up in heaven? And are those dancers up in heaven with him?"

Funny. Then a few minutes later he said, "So is he in our heaven?" and I said, "I don't know. Probably." Then he said, "Oh that's awesome. He's probably up there taking care of Jada's dog, Lexi. (who died a few months ago! )

2.08.10 This morning, Alex and I were talking while we were having breakfast and out of the blue he said.."I know why Jesus died for us" So I said, "You do? Why?" Then he said, " So we could live" I said, "You are right! Wasn't that amazing that he would do that for us?" Then he said, "Yah. And I know he died on the cross, but what does that mean?" So I explained to him that the wicked people put nails through his hands and feet and then just left him there to suffer ........He sat there for about 30 seconds without saying anything and just looking at the ground and said, "He must really love us cause I bet that hurt him so bad. I can't believe he did that!" .....WOW! What a great moment as a parent to have your child truly understand what Christ went through for us.

11.14.09 The other morning we were kneeling to have family prayer before I rushed off to my hair appointment and Brady left to work. Sadie, my neice was coming over to babysit and the last few times she has come, Bubba has been sooooooo naughty and said horribly naughty things to her so during the prayer I said, "Please bless Alex, McKaylee, Brinley and ALEX to be good" (making sure he heard me) well he did..and he whispered, "Mom, you already said Alex". :) ....Then when Sadie was over he of course had a few naughty moments and said the dreaded words, "I hate you" well, when he found out he didn't get the little prize I brought home for him he said, "Mom, I didn't say 'I hate you' I promise! I said 'I ate you' cause I was hungry! " .....Man that kids thinks he is just too smart!

8.26.09 A few days ago during family prayer Alex said this,

"And please bless everyone to feel good and not be sick, except for bad guys".....So there you have it. If any of you Robbers or murderers out there have been feeling under the weather, well, now you know why!

7.17.09 So tonight we were sitting around talking with the kids and I explained to them that not all mom's "breastfeed". McKaylee said, "Really? I didn't know that! " and Brinley said, "That's not weird, I'm for sure not going to!" So I asked her why and she said, "Because it's so GROSS!" Then she stood up and pointed to her boobs and said, "These precious things don't ever wanna be touched!".........................WHAT??? Seriously! Not sure where she comes up with these things!

7.14.09 The other day when we were going thru our new house I was showing my sister around and had showed her the "office" in the front of the house. When we were leaving, Alex came up to me and Kristin and said, "Hey! Dad doesn't have to go to work anymore cause he has an "office" in this house!"

6.15.09 The other morning I was in talking to Brady about a conversation I had with a friend..I used the term, "She threw me under the bus" ...and about 2 seconds later, Alex came running in and said, "WHAT? She threw you on top of a bus? THAT'S MEAN!"

5.30.09 Last night I was down on my hands and knees in my P.J's scrubbing the floor...(I know..quite a site! ) And Bubba came around the corner and said, "Whoa! Your bum is humungous! I thought baby Olivia was just in your tummy!" ....ahhhhh...Gotta love how honest your kids are!

5.19.09 Last night I was laying by Alex and out of the blue he said, "I don't wanna get married like you and Dad"...So I asked him why and he said, "Cause I don't ever want to kiss" Then I laughed and said, "Bubba, someday you will find a girl that you love and you won't mind kissing her when you are married." Then without even hesitating he said, "No....kissing is disgusting. I don't want to ever do it! It's gross!" So I just said, "Well, we'll see...maybe someday when you are all grown up you will like girls more!". Then after about 2 minutes of silence he said, "Ok...I'll marry Ashleigh. I would like to kiss her, I think!".....(Ashleigh is Brady's best friend Troy's 14 year old daughter!) So I said, "Oh yah, Ashleigh is nice and she's pretty". Then he said, "No mom, she's HOT!"

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So I said, "If we named her that, we would get her mixed up with Jennine's Rori Ana. " Then he said, "Well, I just really don't want a baby with no hair"..(we have bald, bald babies)

Then he said, "I think if we name her Rori Ana, she will have lots of black hair and be really pretty!"

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3.14.09 Last week when we first started packing, Alex had been so so so excited to pack his stuff! He turned to me and said, "So are Tyson and Tanner and Jameson all packing their stuff too?" ....So sad. He really thought our whole circle would just pick up and leave with us! :( I would be dealing with things much better, if that were true!

3.09.09 I'm sitting out here on the couch after a LONG day of packing...along with everything else, and I can hear Brinley in her room singing herself to sleep with this sweet little lullaby..haha......"Don'tcha wish your girlfriend was hot like me. Don'tcha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me..Don'tcha! Don'tcha!"...........Ahhhh, only Brinley...:)

2.26.09 Last night Alex was laying in my bed to go to sleep since Brady was gone. He turned to me and said, "When I get married to Jada (his cousin) we will probably kiss." And I said, "You will?" Then he said, "Yes! Cause after you get married, the guy says, 'You may now kiss the BRIGHT!'"

2.26.09 Yesterday Alex and I were at Target. He was sitting in the cart and a lady came behind us and couldn't get through the isle so she said, "Excuse me.." and walked through. Alex said (very loudly)..."That's DISGUSTING!" When I asked him what he was talking about he said, "That lady just walked by us and tooted!" I said, "She did?" and he said, "Yah! She said, 'excuse me' so that means she tooted...GROSS!"

2.07.09 Tonight Brinley got a letter in the mail from the Primary that said they were having a "Baptism" fireside tomorrow night for all of those who would be baptized this year. She is so excited about it, but keeps forgetting the word "Fireside"....Tonight she was saying her prayers and she said, "And bless me to have a good time at my 'campfire' tomorrow."

2.02.09 Me and the kids were in the car today, out running errands. I had none other than AEROSMITH playing ....of course! (Most of you know I am an Aerosmith fanatic!) The song, "Dude looks like a Lady" was on and Bubba said, "Yes!! I LOVE THIS SONG!" So I said, "Can you tell me who is singing?" Then he overly confident said, " Yep! It's Joseph Smith!!" Oooops! Pretty funny though, Aerosmith/Joseph Smith do sound a lot alike! I made sure to correct him though!

1.22.09 At the moment, Brinley is in her room absolutely sobbing...here's why. Brin has a hard time with constipation sometimes, so I told her she couldn't have any cheese for a few days because she LOVES cheese!! She ran in her room crying and said, "Why are you doing this to me? You are ruining my life! I cannot survive without cheese!" She just came out to me to apologize and said, "I'm sorry I freaked out.....but CHEESE, mom! This will be the hardest thing I ever have to do!" Ahhh....can't wait for her to read this when she is older!